Flying By The Seat of Your Pants.

I said,” Can I give you an invitation to a short evening course on preparing for life beyond the Wedding day?” She said, “Oh.....ah.....eh.....well, actually this is my second time at it, so if you don’t mind, this time round I think I will just fly by the seat of my pants!” I said, “Well, I hope you are wearing good pants!”
Flying by the seat of your pants was a dangerous venture, the activity of World War One pilots whose early navigation systems often failed, leaving them to fly by the vibrations of the plane, experienced through their pants.
Couples who succeed in their relationship are the ones who intentionally invest time in learning what makes for success and who look after their relationship, making time for each other in the midst of parenting, work and other commitments.
This is especially important when entering a second marriage. We can carry negative baggage with us from our previous experience and assume, new start, better start, without ever having worked through as an individual or a new couple some of the issues which contributed to our past failure. Negatives patterns of behaviour reappear and repeat themselves, sadly. This is, truly, flying by the seat of your pants, so it is not surprising that the failure rate of second marriages can be as high as 80%.
The short courses and resources available through “X Plus Y” are designed to point couples in the right direction and equip them for their future together. Relationships don’t need to come crashing to the ground.