“A child is a grenade. When you have a baby you set off an explosion in your marriage and when the dust settles your marriage / relationship is different. Not better, necessarily: not worse necessarily. But different.” (Nora Ephron in “Heartburn”)
A child does indeed change a relationship. 67% of couples report a precipitous plummet in marital and relationship satisfaction in the first year. Lack of sleep, disgruntlement, feeling over-whelmed, lack of time for oneself among other things. But 33% seem to sail on through unscathed.
Baby shock is baby shock and all experience the highs and lows. But what separates these "blissful" mothers from others has nothing to do with the baby itself and everything to do with the quality of the relationship with her husband or partner. And, whether or not he experiences the transformation to parenthood alongside her or gets left behind.
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